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I feel like a jerk now. sigh
 

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I think you missed our points :/

Just leave her alone homie...
i got attached. technically she shouldn't have been on a dating app from the start, but i'm past that. i messed up with what i said earlier to her (and trying to escalate). i'll leave her alone. i just extended the friendship branch just to let her know I was wrong and that I am here.

So in your mind, she told me she wanted to be friends so solely I would leave her alone?
 

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She just said I'm glad I came around and am willing to be friends
Glad to see that. You've got a penchant for beating yourself up too much amigo. You didn't do anything TO HER that warrants you feeling like a jerk. This situation is more a function of bad timing IMO.
 

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Glad to see that. You've got a penchant for beating yourself up too much amigo. You didn't do anything TO HER that warrants you feeling like a jerk. This situation is more a function of bad timing IMO.
i didn't feel like i did anything too major to her. just pushing the dating aspect too hard i guess (which wasn't much the last month)
i'm glad i'm still on civil terms with her
 

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i didn't feel like i did anything too major to her. just pushing the dating aspect too hard i guess (which wasn't much the last month)
i'm glad i'm still on civil terms with her
You were jerky, but it was a move born of ignorance, not you were playing some power game with her.
 
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I have recently had a lot of dreams that she didn't once appear in, and it feels so fucking good not to wake up tired and miserable. Though I would still do almost anything to know how she's doing, I guess it's none of my business anymore.
 

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During this time I responded to any kind man by fucking them, and withdrew from any man who seemed too forward/aggressive sexually. In the next couple of years I learned that predators came out of the woodwork under the guise of being a kind, sympathetic man.
You worded this much better than I could've and god is it true. Except sometimes I would fuck the forward/sexually aggressive ones too, just to prove to myself that I wasnt shit and didn't deserve shit. To this day I put up with more shit than I should from men & cling for dear life to any man who is nice to me and doesn't try to fuck me within 10 seconds :(
 
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I think you missed our points :/

Just leave her alone homie...
I really could have done with people that made this much sense a long time ago... I always tried to be there for someone who i didn't feel like wanted me to be there any more. Probably because they were way too busy being there for other people. I really sucked quite badly... It'd be cool to think well, at least i've learned a lot of lessons from it, but i wish i'd learned them sooner, because i'm 99% sure i'm never bothering again, which i'm fine with now. I just wish i'd learned more about people before i fucked up with my favourite one.

I guess i'll just get a little high again, that should do it.
 
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You worded this much better than I could've and god is it true. Except sometimes I would fuck the forward/sexually aggressive ones too, just to prove to myself that I wasnt shit and didn't deserve shit. To this day I put up with more shit than I should from men & cling for dear life to any man who is nice to me and doesn't try to fuck me within 10 seconds :(
:: sets up an 11 second timer ::
 

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You worded this much better than I could've and god is it true. Except sometimes I would fuck the forward/sexually aggressive ones too, just to prove to myself that I wasnt shit and didn't deserve shit. To this day I put up with more shit than I should from men & cling for dear life to any man who is nice to me and doesn't try to fuck me within 10 seconds :(
You aren't shit and you deserve a lot. I've been through my (many) self-destructive phases too and it's always good if you can come out on the other end and recognize it, which you have. :heart:
 

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i got attached. technically she shouldn't have been on a dating app from the start, but i'm past that.
Maybe she shouldn't have been but it's not fair to blame her for that when she's in such a vulnerable place. People don't think clearly in traumatic situations.
 

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You aren't shit and you deserve a lot. I've been through my (many) self-destructive phases too and it's always good if you can come out on the other end and recognize it, which you have. :heart:
:revolvingheart::revolvingheart::revolvingheart:

If I could stop repeating the pattern that would really be awesome. I have high enough self awareness to know what I'm doing and low enough self esteem to keep doing it, which is like the worst possible combo, sadlol.
 

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Around here "you ain't shit" means you're worth nothing.

Apparently you guys are saying it like "you ain't a piece of shit"
 
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