09/25 - T-Rex Tuesday!

[Mecca]

So this was my brother when we were younger. The thing is - mine is 5 years younger than me! He would walk around naked in front of them. Gross thing is, when I was in college (about 21), some of them actually had crushes on him! He always had girls lined up, still does. He's 40 now and when he separated from his fiance for 3 months, the 20 something girls were asking him out.

When he was in high school, he'd make girls sit on the porch while he played video games in the house. They'd sit there for hours waiting for him. I'd come home and they'd be sitting there.

He's always gotten a ton of female attention so it's not that different actually.

 

[katarina]

I like that approach the problem is...I know he's had sex with several girls so I'm pretty sure he'll think I'm wrong. I have a very serious problem with his complete lack of respect for women in general. He lacks respect for his mother and sisters with the shit he does...

If he can't behave, take his phone away and make him stay in his room, or leave, when your daughter's friends come over.
Idk.
I feel like you should probably just pack your bags and move to Africa.
That sounds more appealing than having so many damn teenagers.
You sound so unhappy all the time.

 

[Windir]

I peed and then called to him that the TP was out. He came in, took the toilet paper roll off the holder thing, put a new roll on it as I flushed, and it slid out the other side of the roll and into the toilet. Since it was flushing it just went right down. We've all been kind of waiting to see if it was going to be an issue and it looks like it is... like an issue other than "how to replace a 113yo toilet paper roll holder that came with the damn house"

Yea well, sh*t happens.

 

[Mecca]

Yeah I mean I'd stick his ass in counseling then. Not as a punishment, but like... if he's having these issues now it could just carry over to adulthood ya know? I'm a big fan of counseling though so that's just me. I think everyone should go at some point.

I've brought that up too, he literally sat here and told me to my face "counseling is stupid and if you make me go I will just lie and waste all of our time"

 

[CrazyCatLady]

Yea...he literally goes into spin mode and says "They aren't showing you the other part where they started it"

Legit I've had this problem with him for years where he always thinks he's the smartest guy in the room and he'll do anything he thinks he can get away with. Me and his mom think he could end up in prison because he literally thinks as long as I won't get caught rules don't apply.

I agree with the counseling. Might help him.

 

[Mecca]

If he can't behave, take his phone away and make him stay in his room, or leave, when your daughter's friends come over.
Idk.
I feel like you should probably just pack your bags and move to Africa.
That sounds more appealing than having so many damn teenagers.
You sound so unhappy all the time.

I'm actually not upset at all I just want him to behave normally around women, it shouldn't be that hard. And yes having a bunch of teens is difficult. They all have issues from time to time. I was just curious what someone else would do because it's a situation I don't have experience in because I was never that way.

He was already told if he doesn't knock it off he won't be at our home when she has anyone over. The worst part is he's a good student and does what's asked of him more than the other children ever have, it's just this women thing that he's horrible about.

 

[Despairagus]

I've brought that up too, he literally sat here and told me to my face "counseling is stupid and if you make me go I will just lie and waste all of our time"

yeah they'll know if he's lying, especially if you talk to them as well.

 

[CrazyCatLady]

I've brought that up too, he literally sat here and told me to my face "counseling is stupid and if you make me go I will just lie and waste all of our time"

Well then..you need to secretly record this conversation and let his future therapist hear it when he goes

 

[TobyFromHR]

Yea...he literally goes into spin mode and says "They aren't showing you the other part where they started it"

Legit I've had this problem with him for years where he always thinks he's the smartest guy in the room and he'll do anything he thinks he can get away with. Me and his mom think he could end up in prison because he literally thinks as long as I won't get caught rules don't apply.

Take his phone away. Tell him you'll have no part in aiding his unsolicited sexual advances.

 

[Mecca]

Well then..you need to secretly record this conversation and let his future therapist hear it when he goes

That's not a bad idea actually.

 

[cassius]

Anyhow our son just turned 16 and his sister will be 15 in like a week...anytime she has a friend come over to the house...he tries to fuck them, EVERY SINGLE TIME. He will completely deny it when you try to talk to him about it even though I've seen screen shots of what he texts to them.

I'm really not sure how how to deal with it..I already knew he was basically trying to fuck lots of girls at school but it crosses the line when it's his sisters friends and it makes you feel like she can never have anyone in the house. All he does when you try to bring it up is deny deny deny although that's who he has always been.

explain to him to get it under control because every action, every tweet is being saved for later jobs, interviews, college entrance exams, etc. in other words explain to him that his behavior today determines his survival tomorrow.

 

[Kamalani]

He's always gotten a ton of female attention so it's not that different actually.

I will say that my brother has a matured a lot and kind of grew out of it. He was always after the ladies until he met baby mama/fiance. But all the women, even after they broke up, still liked him as friends. One is still his best friend. Maybe he'll grow out of it?

 

[Mecca]

Take his phone away. Tell him you'll have no part in aiding his unsolicited sexual advances.

He's also one of those kids who can't contain himself where if you take his phone it's full of him asking girls for naked pictures.

Is this what kids do now?

 

[C to the J]

So this was my brother when we were younger. The thing is - mine is 5 years younger than me! He would walk around naked in front of them. Gross thing is, when I was in college (about 21), some of them actually had crushes on him! He always had girls lined up, still does. He's 40 now and when he separated from his fiance for 3 months, the 20 something girls were asking him out.

When he was in high school, he'd make girls sit on the porch while he played video games in the house. They'd sit there for hours waiting for him. I'd come home and they'd be sitting there.

 

[katarina]

Taking a teenagers phone away is always the best punishment nowadays.

 

[Despairagus]

He's also one of those kids who can't contain himself where if you take his phone it's full of him asking girls for naked pictures.

Is this what kids do now?

NO. Seriously if this is all legit you should prob get him some help before he gets himself into big trouble. One of those girls sends him anything and says something and he could be pinned or child pornography, even if he's under 18.

 

[Mecca]

I think my main frustration is, how can you get someone who is super stubborn to understand they are wrong?

I'll try a bunch of these suggestions though because I'd like him to knock this shit off.

 

[CrazyCatLady]

NO. Seriously if this is all legit you should prob get him some help before he gets himself into big trouble. One of those girls sends him anything and says something and he could be pinned or child pornography, even if he's under 18.

This!!! Make it super clear to him. They don't take that stuff lightly these days.

 

[Mecca]

NO. Seriously if this is all legit you should prob get him some help before he gets himself into big trouble. One of those girls sends him anything and says something and he could be pinned or child pornography, even if he's under 18.

100% had that conversation...he says ok I understand...then does it again. Like I said earlier about thinking if he won't get caught...

 

[ALinAL]

He's also one of those kids who can't contain himself where if you take his phone it's full of him asking girls for naked pictures.

Is this what kids do now?

Apparently. From what you're saying, he's already getting attention from girls. And it sounds like he's already getting laid. I think your only two choices are to lock him in the basement or make sure he's packing condoms. If he's doing good in school like you say, then that's one major battle won. Once they start having sex, they're not going to stop. Unless maybe he finds Jesus, or something.